Thoughts on THE PROMISE… exchanging your wedding vows.
July 18th, 2008What is THE PROMISE? A life long commitment to your other half. A promise to grow with each other and share in the triumphs as well as struggles; an equal sharing in responsibilities and dedication to common goals. This commitment is often confused with a promise to love someone forever, but we must not forget that being completely IN LOVE with someone doesnt guarantee a successful and happy marriage. A matrimony is a sacred partnership between two adults that become one. But is it truly one brain, one heart, one body? No of course not; the premise that together they become greater than the sum of their parts is understood. The couple works together because together they have greater resources: emotionally, economically, socially, and cognitively. They have each other to look to for guidance and support, motivation and encouragement, laughter or a tear. The couple becomes a perpetual entity, continuously growing and maturing. Each half of the entity struggling to aport more to the partnership. It is in this respect that love plays the strongest role: in the selfless giving of one’s self, in the Faith and belief that each is living for something greater than themselves. It is not the idolatry of the other but the knowledge that each one makes the other one better and more complete. It is Love that allows one to BE loved and accept the partners affection, attention and resolve. Love will always endure but an improperly nurtured relationship (mainly due to lack of communication) may cease to exist. Love freely and love completely but remember your vows, remember your PROMISE.